I’ll admit the term “relationships” use to give me an awful feeling inside. A feeling of despair, shame, and guilt. Being in a tough relationship for 5 yrs. definitely had something to do with this negative perception but I’m sure most of us can relate to. This is my 5th year being SINGLE but yet my relationships have never been more intimate and they are evolving. Here are my TOP FIVE RELATIONSHIP BUILDING TECHNIQUES. These do not apply to one type of relationship but all types:
Free yourself from inauthentic relationships. On the contrary, relationships are not all about imprisonment. I realized I felt trapped in mine because I wasn’t keeping real about my feelings and what I wanted. When you feel like you can’t be yourself around someone this is a huge sign to BE REAL and ask yourself if this relationship is serving you both. Being in relationships where you can be 100% Authentic are the most deep and liberating ones.
Relationships Start With You
This goes for couples too. We’ve all heard that saying that you must first love yourself before you can love someone else right?! “I say LOVE YOURSELF and OTHERS SIMULTANEOUSLY.” Seeing the love in everything is a direct reflection of the self love. Not convinced? Do you see the glass half full or half empty? This is the same thing and doesn’t mean you are ignoring REALITY. A quote from a very wise man sums it up: “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” -Wayne Dyer. Boom! Basically if you have a poor attitude your relationships don’t grow.
Give for the Sake of Giving
Receiving is truly in the giving. For those of you who don’t have an issue with giving, LEARN TO RECEIVE. For those of you who don’t have an issue receiving, GIVE GIVE GIVE and GIVE SOME MORE. Truth be told when you give, you give to yourself. Call it SELFISH if you like but actually not allowing someone to give to you is robbing someone from gift of giving. I’m talking about that feeling you get from helping people without asking for anything in return.
Be Vulnerable and Open
Vulnerability is powerful. I know most men and people in general view vulnerability as a weakness but this is further from the truth. When you hide your true colors, is when you’re at your weakest. It takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable and open in our relationships because of our innate fear of SEPARATION. Your loved ones already have their OWN IDEA of who you are and most of it has to do with themselves. So don’t worry about what the other thinks and speak your truth.
The best thing about relationships is having someone to laugh with, create inside jokes with, and enjoy life’s journey. Being present to the moment and people who are in that moment with you is the key. I challenge you to play with every single person you come in contact with.
Which strategy or similar strategy do you practice?